Sexual Insecurities

Men have been brought up to be competitive. For many, strength and self reliance prove their masculinity and their essence as a man. This attitude also reflects on how they view their own sexuality. Sexual prowess is considered as a sign of manliness. If a man grew up with a very distant father and very protective mother is deprived of developing a healthy self concept.  This social insecurity shows when he has to make it with the sexual partner, when he finds out for example that he wife is more aggressive than he is and he's not used to that kind of aggressiveness or this orientation because of his family background. It is not easy for men to go into a sexual situation believing that everything rides on how well he performs. But many men seem to rate themselves according to how they work at sex and believes that relationships suffer because of performance anxiety since making love less of a union and more of a task. I has been observed that most men who experience performance anxiety made love with the fear of not living up to their partners "sexpectations" which are not usually accurate. Make sex an activity that both husband and wife both partake in actively. Try being spontaneous, like going home earlier than usual and staying in bed for the rest of the day. Husbands should read self help articles on how to use sex toys for men. Switch roles during foreplay so both of you can experience giving and being given pleasure during sex.